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Dahlia DeWinters - Author

Quirky Heroines, Happy Endings

Writer’s Block – Defeated!

As a writer, I’m sure that you’ve heard other writer’s complain about “writer’s block”. You’ve hit that brick wall before. I’m sure you’ve read numerous articles on how to cure writer’s block. And yet, the “muse is silent” or “can’t seem to put ‘pen to paper’”.

Guess what? There’s no such thing as writer’s block, or at least the “writer’s block” that so many writers imagine.

Writer’s block doesn’t swoop down (or up) and sit in your mind and keep you from letting the words flow. It’s not a dam, clogging the words that you so desperately want to get on paper. It’s not a malevolent external force over which you have no control.

Writer’s block is like the Force: It’s in you.

Writer’s block is fear. Fear of judgment by others about the crazy story with too much sex you just wrote. Fear of ridicule about that ridiculous storyline about the talking garbage can that saved children from drowning. Fear of failure: this great story that you just outlined? You won’t finish. Fear of ‘not being good enough’ and/or envy: you see everywhere that writers are finishing their fifth, fifteenth, thirtieth book and you’re still chugging along on your second. Or you’re unpublished and have a stack of “no thanks” rejections to prove it.

It’s in you. Your fears, your shortcomings, your trepidation of….whatever. It’s a mind block.

And guess what? It could also be a physical manifestation of issues.

Brain feel fogged? A while ago I wrote a post on Herbs for Clarity that helped me break through a brain block that I suffered through a while ago. Since then, I’ve paid close attention to my body. Remember that old adage, “Garbage in, garbage out”. Yeah. It’s totally true.

Whenever I feel “writer’s blockish” I immediately get up from the computer and run down my three point checklist, kind of like the twenty nine points of inspection they claim to give you “for free” when you buy new tires. (I don’t believe they check all that, but let’s give them the benefit of the doubt, shall we?)

1. Am I dehydrated?

According to some sources, this past July was the hottest July on record here in the Northeast. Keeping hydrated is important at any time of the year, but easy to forget. Feeling fogged? Have a glass of water. Then, drink another. The brain is 70% water (http://ga.water.usgs.gov/edu/propertyyou.html) . Keep it juiced, folks.

2. Am I eating too much junk food?

Sitting and snacking at the computer while you furiously pound out your next masterpiece is something that too many of us do. It’s easy, it’s quick and it keeps us from wandering away in the middle of a scene. I’m sure if you could get over the embarrassment of wearing an adult diaper, someone would do that too. Anything to keep from getting up.

You’ve heard this before, I know, I know, but in order to keep your body (which by the way includes your brain) in top working condition, you’ve got to feed it the food it needs, which doesn’t include copious amounts of cheese curls and chocolate. Ditto for the take-out fast food that you’re eating because ‘you just don’t have the time to cook’. (This goes for you dolls AND guys out there, because I don’t discriminate when it comes to cooking.)

Feed your body the vegetables, meat, dairy, vitamins, whatever, that it needs. If that means grilled tofu and Brussels sprouts, or a thick steak, potatoes and spinach, so be it. Just make sure you eat right. Keep the chocolate, candy, chips and soda to a minimum.

3. Am I spending too much time on social media?
Let’s face it, if you are in certain communities, everyone is promoting something. It’s the nature of the beast. Too much of that flow on Twitter, Facebook, wherever, can be detrimental to your sense of well-being. Look! So and so is promoting their twentieth book! Jack be nimble has made over 30 trillion sales TODAY of his new book! Amy is going to let you in on HER secret to selling 7 gazillion books in just one month!

Move away, back off. THEY are not YOU. YOU are not THEM. This is a good time to exercise a little tunnel vision, especially when you’re in a low spot in your own creativity. Go you own pace. Stay in your own lane. Stop watching other people. DO what you DO and be happy with that.

Spending too much time on social media means that you’re spending time away from your work in progress, or from doing something that is healthy for you like exercising or pondering nature. Keep it to a minimum.

Best way to beat writer’s block? Keep it from happening. Keep yourself healthy and wise, and do what works for you.


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Luscious Literaries has Launched

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Welcome! Glad you stopped by the Luscious Literaries.  We’re a collection of sinfully sexy writers who compose prose that makes the steam rise.  (I left the cheap joke alone, I’m a classy broad.)  I’m Dahlia, pretty new to the writing game compared to some of my cohorts and I must say I’m in excellent company.  I’d admired these talented gals from afar before I made their acquaintance.  Since the Luscious theme for September is first times, if you lean a little closer I’ll tell you the first things I learned about them.  Please, keep it under your hat, okay?  I don’t want them to know I’m talking about them.

Kassanna – My girl can put together a story.  Her Club Lexx series is hot, and I don’t throw that word around lightly.  Her secret gem is her story Keys to Victory –a complex, interesting and sexy story. First time I actually spoke to her via chat, she gave me a kind but stern lecture, which boiled down to “get your sweet ass in gear and write”.  A constant inspiration whether it be a pat on the head or a foot in the butt, she’s got it for you.

Chacelyn Pierce – First of all, the name itself is…sublime.  Are mages and djinns your cup of tea?  How about international jet-setting thieves?  She’s got it for you.  She can also whip up an awesome cover and loves her men with long hair.

Lorraine Nelson – Funny, tough and smart – Lorraine doesn’t waste any time.  Don’t believe me?  I was literally shocked at the sheer number of books that she has out in a short amount of time. Her fave post?  “Wanna sprint?”

Angelina Rain – Angelina grabbed my attention with her book Rescued Love with the Rottweiler on the cover.  Romance and rescued dogs?  That’s a winner! She’s always ready with a word of encouragement or celebration!

W Lynn Chantale – Always good for a cheerful word or a wry comment. She’s made me laugh out loud in front of my computer screen more than once. Plays bass guitar and writes sensual love scenes.  Don’t take my word for it… check out Lust and Bound.

Shyla Colt – Shyla and I became acquainted at an online fiction site and to be truthful, she was the impetus for me to answer a submissions call with my second manuscript. (I’ll give the story of my first sometime later, ha!) Constantly creating even with young ones at home, she’s a powerhouse author of the first kind and writes about close encounters of the third.

Nikki Prince – Basically, she had a question about a fiction site and I had an answer.  New to publishing, I know she’s got a few sexy stories in the works (but don’t tell her I said anything).  Her story Mocha Kisses is short but fiery!

And me?  Well, since this may be your first time meeting me, I’ll run it down real quick:  I’m a night owl, I love football and it’s always five o’ clock somewhere.

The Luscious Literaries are as pleased to meet you as you are them, I promise you.  Stay tuned for our first contest giveaway!


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Dahlia's Doing a Giveaway!

In honor of the release of my newest book, The Wisest Maiden, I am running my very first evah contest, darlings!  Isn’t this just the bee’s knees?

The Wisest Maiden is a story of a  peasant girl who matches wits with a powerful king in a battle to stay alive after being forced into a one-night-only marriage.  It takes place in the fantasy Maolin  province, part of an arid desert world where there are still palace-mistresses, handmaidens and, of course, kings.

I’m working with one of my associates from way back, the lovely Itiel McVay of  Smell Goods Spa, and offering a $25.00 Gift Certificate for one fortunate winner to sample some of the delights at the

Smell Goods Spa.  I can tell you from experience that Itiel’s products are the best handmade products out there.  You do feel good and smell good after using them!

Chocolate Truffle Scrub – Smell Goods Spa

All right, sweeties, here are the prizes you can win. There will be five winners in all.

First prize:

1 – $25.00 Gift Certificate to the Smell Goods Spa
1 – Copy of The Wisest Maiden, by yours truly
1-  Package of SmellGoods Incense (50 Sticks)
1 – Incense Burner

Second Prize:

1 – Copy of The Wisest Maiden
1-  Package of SmellGoods Incense (50 Sticks)
1 – Incense Burner

Three (3) Runners-up:

1 – Package of SmellGoods Incense (50 Sticks)
1 – Incense Burner

It’s easy enough to enter.  You can enter once, or go for it all and get as many bonus points as you can, all right from this page. Scrooooooollll down to the Rafflecopter at the bottom of the page.  It’ll tell you what to do.

The contest ends September 1st. Winners will be notified via email.  After winners are confirmed and addressed obtained, your prize will be shipped via First Class Mail within five business days.

Winners of the e-book and the gift certificate will receive those prizes via e-mail.
a Rafflecopter giveaway
Contest conducted through Rafflecopter.  The first name chosen through Rafflecopter (via random.org) will win First Prize.  Second name chosen through RC will win Second Prize.  The next three names chosen will win the Runner-up Prize. Contest will run for 8 days. Winners will be notified via email.


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The Wisest Maiden Blog Tour – Week Two

The Wisest Maiden…

A peasant girl matches wits with a powerful king in a battle to stay alive after being forced into a one-night-only marriage

The Wisest Maiden….

Blog Tour Week Two – Catch up on what you missed!

Rosanna Leo’s Room
Boundless as the Sea
Review and Excerpt – Chacelyn Pierce
Massage  for a Better Sex Life- Nikki Prince
Freaky Friday’s Hot Excerpt – On the Island of DX Luc

I can’t thank my author colleagues enough for hosting me this week.  What a whirlwind!

And if you missed Week One….


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Sultry Saturday – The Wisest Maiden Musical Inspiration

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The first week of touring blogs has been a whirlwind, to say the least. I wanted to settle down at my home blog, put my feet up and tell you a little of my inspiration for this story. The story grew out of an idea for a fairy tale that was a little off of the beaten path. It was summer, or approaching summer when I was writing this, and I often find myself writing stories in the present climate, the better to more fully capture the “feel” of the weather.

Then I caught some program on the National Geographic Channel or History, I don’t remember which, that was talking about the Taj Mahal and the great love that king had for his queen. Great love is wonderful, but a conflict it does not make. But the, bang! The old brain kicked in and there was One Thousand and One Arabian Nights…and the story began to unfold.

The world is a fantasy desert world, a mélange of many different cultures, with kings and hand maidens and palace mistresses and the like.

When I wrote this particular story, I immersed, or tried to, immerse myself in the world. Let’s just say I got a LOT of coconut oil massages and burned a lot of incense. Thanks to the awesome DH for that.

One thing that I noticed was that my regular, contemporary, grunge, 80s and rock n roll music wasn’t going to do it for me. I went to You Tube and found hours of lovely music that made me want to lounge about and have a shirtless Chris Evans peeling grapes.

Sultry Music

It’s called Wonderful Chill Out Music (Arabic and India Balance Mix) by Tekiu……the title is way appropriate.

Light up a little incense, lie back and close your eyes. It’s totally wonderful. Even the pictures in the video were inspiring. Check it out, you won’t be sorry. I’ll be back later with Week Two Tour Stops.

 

D


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