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Dahlia DeWinters - Author

Quirky Heroines, Happy Endings

Lazy Sunday Meme – The Power of Four

It was one of those weekends.  I’m burnt out from editing and revising a WIP ( a never ending process that I declare ends today!)  Then I discover that my poor, poor blog hasn’t been touched since goodness knows when.

I have no ideas….it’s MEME time!

This is a real easy one based on the power of four.  No tricks, just a list.  Hope you’ll join me!

 

 

Four Places I have worked/Jobs I have had

DairyQueen
Macy’s Salesperson (Lingerie)
Website Designer
Mathematics Teacher

Four Places I Have Lived:
Los Angeles, California
New Orleans, Louisiana
New Haven, Connecticut
New Jersey

Four Movies I Could Watch Again and Again:
Aliens
Goodfellas
X-Men
Double Indemity

Four Television Shows I Watch (Don’t really watch that much TV)
Grimm
Hoarders
The Sopranos
48 Hours on ID

Four Authors I Enjoy:
Stephen King
Ed McBain
Robert B. Parker
Michael Connelly

Four Places I Have Travelled To:
Grand Canyon
Disney World
Kentucky Downs
Mexico City

Four Websites I Visit Daily:
Shades of the Muse
Tumblr
Dr. Mercola
NFL.com

Four Blogs I Visit Weekly:
Heroes and Heartbreakers
Writing World
The Bleacher Report
Advanced Fiction Writing

Four of My Favorite Foods:
Strawberry Yogurt
Dark Chocolate (85%)
Grilled Chicken Salad
Chocolate Almond Ice Cream

Four Places I’d Rather Be:
At the beach
Gardening
Sleeping
In Las Vegas

Four People I Want to Tag:
Nikki
Tara
Cassanna
W Lynn

If you’ve been tagged, make your own list and link back to this post.  Have fun with it and happy Sunday.

 


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Free for all Friday – Take A Bow

 

It’s Friday and I must say this has been some week. Despite the super high temps on Monday here in the Northeast USA, dental surgery and various family mishaps, I finished a story.  Finished.  Fin.

Now, the editing process begins, the tweaking, the second guessing, etc.  However, I will gladly embrace this part of the process because I am working on a finished product.

Finishing a piece, whether it be 3 k or 30k give me a sense of accomplishment that boosts my creativity for the next project.  Now, I don’t know whether that’s good or bad, but I’ve learned to carry a notebook in which I scribble bare-bones synopses (synopsisesss?) of upcoming stories.  In the time that I’ve been writing, I’ve learned a few things.

1) Have a couple of WIPs in progress (while you are working on one, your mind is going a mile a minute on the other.  Use the passive aggressiveness of your muse to your advantage)

2) Set a word count.  My goal varies between 1000 and 2500 a day. I have three children, so I can’t spend as much time in front of the computer as I’d like ot.  (See the little notebook)

3) When you get an idea ALWAYS WRITE IT DOWN (Did I mention the little notebook?

4) Whine to your author friends on Facebook.  Not only will they give you the support you need, you also see your whiny words in black and white and realize, “Wow, I’m really whiny! I could have written 200 words on my WIP instead of whining away like that!” (But one does deserve a whine post every now and again…)

So I’m already outlining the next story.  And have two other waiting for my attention.  I say I’m going into the weekend with a pleasantly full plate!

Blessings!

TSS


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I had to let it happen…I had to change…

I was a beginning writer once.  Heck, I still think I’m a beginning writer, sometimes.  I also have a lot of contact, both on and off the interwebs, with other writers, beginning writers, hobby writers,  and the like.

In my past life as a teacher,  I tend to be the person to whom people came for advice.  Now that I’m a (beginning ) writer who has been published, the questions abound.   I don’t give advice anymore.  I don’t, really, you know why?  I think that if you’re asking the question, eighty percent of the time, you already have the answer and either are in denial or are looking for someone else to simply agree with your assessment of the situation.

And, if you’re wrong, you’ll be looking for a long time.

I was fortunate enough to run upon Holly Lisle’s books and courses and something she said in her book “Mugging the Muse”

To paraphrase, those who ask others about writing, are given an answer, then say “but….”?  That means they don’t LIKE the answer you‘ve given and have already made up their minds.

These type of people, you can’t help, so don’t waste your time.

I’ll give a brief example from my own experience.  I submitted my first book, Kitty Wishes, as a short story for an Evernight anthology call.  I was told that though the anthology was full, if I expanded the story, then it could be released on its own.

If I were a lunkhead, I could have said “But….I wrote the story as a short story!  It stands as I created it!!!  I’ll shop it somewhere else! How dare you ask ME to chaaaaaaange!!!”

Did I say that?  No.  To me, that was an opportunity to expand on characterization and place.  So I did, and it was published.

Same with beta readers.  If you’ve picked a good beta reader, pay attention to what they say.  Sure, being criticized hurts.

Who among us wants our work to be picked apart?

Those of us who want to be GOOD at what we do.

When the publishers say, “Give me the same thing…only different!”  DO it.  They know what they want and are asking for it in plain language.  Don’t lament that “they only want this, they only want that”  Yeah.  They do “only want this, only want that” because in their experience, that sells.

Don’t change the publisher.  Change your writing.  OR, find a publisher that will accept your type of writing.  Just don’t “butt” your head against a brick wall trying to bend the publisher to YOUR will.  You will end up with a very sore head and an empty bank account.

Really.

Have  I said too much?  There’s nothing more I can think of to say to you/ But all you do is look at me to know that every word is true……

TSS
Write long to prosper!


Filed Under: Quotation Thursdays, Uncategorized Tagged: dahlia dewinters, interracial romance, multicultural romance

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