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Dahlia DeWinters - Author

Quirky Heroines, Happy Endings

I had to let it happen…I had to change…

I was a beginning writer once.  Heck, I still think I’m a beginning writer, sometimes.  I also have a lot of contact, both on and off the interwebs, with other writers, beginning writers, hobby writers,  and the like.

In my past life as a teacher,  I tend to be the person to whom people came for advice.  Now that I’m a (beginning ) writer who has been published, the questions abound.   I don’t give advice anymore.  I don’t, really, you know why?  I think that if you’re asking the question, eighty percent of the time, you already have the answer and either are in denial or are looking for someone else to simply agree with your assessment of the situation.

And, if you’re wrong, you’ll be looking for a long time.

I was fortunate enough to run upon Holly Lisle’s books and courses and something she said in her book “Mugging the Muse”

To paraphrase, those who ask others about writing, are given an answer, then say “but….”?  That means they don’t LIKE the answer you‘ve given and have already made up their minds.

These type of people, you can’t help, so don’t waste your time.

I’ll give a brief example from my own experience.  I submitted my first book, Kitty Wishes, as a short story for an Evernight anthology call.  I was told that though the anthology was full, if I expanded the story, then it could be released on its own.

If I were a lunkhead, I could have said “But….I wrote the story as a short story!  It stands as I created it!!!  I’ll shop it somewhere else! How dare you ask ME to chaaaaaaange!!!”

Did I say that?  No.  To me, that was an opportunity to expand on characterization and place.  So I did, and it was published.

Same with beta readers.  If you’ve picked a good beta reader, pay attention to what they say.  Sure, being criticized hurts.

Who among us wants our work to be picked apart?

Those of us who want to be GOOD at what we do.

When the publishers say, “Give me the same thing…only different!”  DO it.  They know what they want and are asking for it in plain language.  Don’t lament that “they only want this, they only want that”  Yeah.  They do “only want this, only want that” because in their experience, that sells.

Don’t change the publisher.  Change your writing.  OR, find a publisher that will accept your type of writing.  Just don’t “butt” your head against a brick wall trying to bend the publisher to YOUR will.  You will end up with a very sore head and an empty bank account.

Really.

Have  I said too much?  There’s nothing more I can think of to say to you/ But all you do is look at me to know that every word is true……

TSS
Write long to prosper!


Filed Under: Quotation Thursdays, Uncategorized Tagged: dahlia dewinters, interracial romance, multicultural romance

Manic Mondays – Male POV

Ah, this is a touchy situation for female romance writers.  I’ve read a lot of romance books, the good, the bad and the supremely ugly, and one thing that I’ve noticed is a few of these books don’t quite “get” the male POV, whether it be in word or in action.

Now, readers, writers, folks who read this blog (and I hope they are more than a few), I am not pointing fingers.  Don’t go peeking at my GoodReads list and say “Oh, she’s talking about this book, she’s talking about that book”.  As an author, I live in a glass house, surely, so yeah.

One story I read, a while ago, had the male lead “wringing his hands”.  My jaw dropped.  A dude?  WRINGING his hands?  What’s next, is he going to whip out the handkerchief and blot his eyes? Clutch his pearls? (heh, yeah, I just thought the same thing)

I run a lot of male dialogue and actions past my husband and he has been less than kind when I describe a certain action that he deems not to be masculine.  His biggest criticism?  “You’ve got him talking too much.”

How true.  I understand that the words on the page have to convey the character’s actions, but I’ve shifted to a lot more action and some introspection on the man’s part when I write rather than have him yakking.  When I edit, the first thing I do is cut down male dialogue and either add action or introspection.

I also try to read books written by men (that are non romance).  My favorites are the Spenser series by Robert Parker and the 87th street precinct series by Ed McBain.  Both give excellent insight into how males process information and interact with others.

Watch shows like Law and Order, especially the ones with Jerry Orbach.  Tough detectives with the quips and the dry humor.  Excellent research and not so bad storylines either.

I also watch a ton of football and football oriented shows.  That, uh, helps with male point of view too.  (No, really it does.) And the NFL channel is probably one of the only places where you’ll see guys cry or almost cry.  I saw Mike Ditka tear up, a tiny bit.

In none of these books do the men wring their hands.  None.  Never saw a guy wring his hands on the football channel either.

 


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Book Review – Afterburn

This is the first time that I’ve been asked to read and review a book and I daresay that I’m tickled pink!

I had the distinct pleasure of reading pre-release copy of Sonia Hightower’s Afterburn.  Afterburn is a story about two people who come together despite their cautions and differences, and triumph through both internal and external pressures.

Their love burns hot, but will it stay fueled?

Crystal is an enlisted mechanic with a tragic past. Grant is an officer and a pilot with a broken heart. When faced with a difficult decision, will Crystal choose wisely or lose the best thing that ever happened to her?

The love between them burns hot, but their relationship won’t stay fueled if they can’t beat the obstacles that stand in their way. Besides breaking the fraternization rules, Grant and Crystal have the difference of race between them…but can they prove to the rest of the world, and to each other, that love is color blind?

Afterburn is about overcoming one’s past, not judging others, learning to forgive, and what it’s like to be a woman in a “man’s world.”

I truly enjoyed this book.  Though it was a novella, Ms. Hightower was able to give a concise and thorough thumbnail sketch of the main characters, giving us enough information through prologue  to understand how they became the people they are when the main story begins. In addition, she is able to convey their motivations through their actions – it’s clear that these are two very strong willed people who have to learn to give a little to get a lot.

I think what I most liked about this book was the way Ms. Hightower drew us into the world of the Air Force, affording the reader an inside peek at what really goes on at the bases.  The subplot of sexual harassment, racial intolerance and how it is addressed by the various characters was handled very well, allowing a secondary character room to grow in the story.

Ms. Hightower added enough detail about the military and how it works (sometimes well, sometimes..not so well) in the protection and support of women.  She didn’t hold back with the descriptions of what could (and probably does) go on behind military doors.  However, she doesn’t bash, she also shows how the individual and the system can work together for the greater good.  In addition, the reader will learn a lot about military jets – I was fascinated by some of the facts that she conveyed in the story.

Even with all that, Ms. Hightower still manages to keep us focused on the romance.  Much of the conflict between Crystal and Grant have nothing to do with their race, but the fact that they have both been hurt in the past and/or they have unresolved fears, in addition to some external pressures.  Through it all, though, I think that Crystal and Grant both did a little growing and a little healing too.   I won’t give away too much, because I don’t want to rob the reader of the joy of the story unfolding.

One thing I would have liked more of was a “peek behind the curtain” of the male supporting characters, perhaps give us a little insight into their behavior.  But that’s just me seeking more information. 🙂

All in all, I would recommend this book as a hot (but way sweet) romance with a military setting.


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Storytellers – Tara Chevrestt

I’d like to welcome Tara Chevrestt to my Storytellers series.

A  little bit about Tara from her own website:

I’m a deaf woman, former aviation mechanic, writer, and an editor. I love planes, motorcycles, and above all, reading. That led to my love of writing. I think I have the greatest job in the world now…

I write as both Tara Chevrestt and Sonia Hightower. The reason for that is they are different genres. Tara writes cleaner or sweeter, and Ride for Rights is a young adult historical so when I penned Sinful Urges which is a tad on the erotic side, I chose a pen name. And I couldn’t have only one book to her name…so Sonia wrote another…and another..

Sonia’s newest release is called Afterburn.  Let’s visit with Tara for a bit, shall we?

What has been the toughest criticism given to you as an author?

Not enough male POV. I’m not a dude. I don’t read about men or understand quite how they think, so I have a hard time with the male POV and I get tired of hearing people belly-ache about it. LOL

What is the easiest part of writing for you?  What is the hardest part?

The easiest…I just have a ton of ideas. That comes easy. The hardest is trying to get people to read my work, and thus, keep myself motivated.

Do you have any advice to aspiring writers?

Be prepared to spend all day on the computer. Even after the book is wrote, you still got edits, and then promoting…

Name some of your favorite movies.

I love old black and white movies. Johnny Belinda blew me away. The Children’s Hour. The Bachelor and the Bobby-Soxer. Love Cary Grant and Greta Garbo.

Name some of your favorite books.

Molokai by Alan Brennert. Unsaid by Neil Abramson.

Do you have a writing regimen?

No. I just write when I feel like it. LOL. And usually when the husband is at work.

What are the perks of being an author?

Meeting other authors. Doing Beta reads. Getting sneak peaks.

You are having a dinner party.  You are able to invite one literary character, one president, one musician, one sports figure and one movie villain.

Literary Character: Veda Grenfell from The Tailor’s Daughter because I see so much of myself in her.

President: JFK. He was the best looking…and I’d ask him to bring his super fine son.

Musician: Pink. She rocks.

Sports Figure: Victor Cruz. I’d make him do the salsa.

Movie Villain: Catwoman/Michelle Pfeiffer. (sp?) That would have to be my favorite villain.

Quickies:

Fuzzy socks or slippers? Fuzzy socks

What’s your favorite shape? triangle

Crayons, markers or paint? markers

Spanish or French? Spanish

Word Association:

Writer: Christina Courtenay

Cheese: Sharp Cheddar

Bestseller: Nora Roberts

Supermarket: Homeland

Now you get to ask me a question: Why the favorite shape question?? Because I used to be a teacher…..

Thanks so much, Tara for stopping by.  Here’s a blurb from her new book, Afterburn:

Their love burns hot, but will it stay fueled?

Crystal is an enlisted mechanic with a tragic past. Grant is an officer and a pilot with a broken heart. When faced with a difficult decision, will Crystal choose wisely or lose the best thing that ever happened to her?

The love between them burns hot, but their relationship won’t stay fueled if they can’t beat the obstacles that stand in their way. Besides breaking the fraternization rules, Grant and Crystal have the difference of race between them…but can they prove to the rest of the world, and to each other, that love is color blind?

Afterburn is about overcoming one’s past, not judging others, learning to forgive, and what it’s like to be a woman in a “man’s world.”

Ready to buy?  Of course you are:

Buy links:

As Sonia Hightower:

Afterburn

Sinful Urges

As Tara Chevrestt:

Dog Tails

A Facebook Affair

Ride for Rights

When We Meet Again

I’d like to thank Tara for taking the time to “sit down” with us.  Wishing you much success in your future endeavors.

TSS


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Quotation Thursdays – Book Quotes

It’s almost spring here in the lovely Garden State – not sure if I’m really ready or not, because we haven’t had much of a winter. But tis always good to have nice weather!

I’ve looked over my past posts and realize, wow.  I just love music and the movies – perhaps I should branch out a bit more and stop beating the same tracks in the dirt.  While I don’t agree that you, reader, will ever tire of my music and movie missives (hee hee)  I will give myself a new challenge today.

Quotation from some of my favorite books.  I have a NOOK with a 4g SD card.  The other day, my little NOOK told me the 4g card was full.  So, yeah, I love to read and think the NOOK is great!  Where else can I carry ALL of my favorite books?

Let’s begin….

“You can’t make a race horse of a pig.”
“No,” said Samuel, “but you can make a very fast pig.”
― John Steinbeck, East of Eden

Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing. ― Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray

“Either get busy living or get busy dying” – Stephen King,  Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption

“Don’t let the bastards grind you down.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Handmaid’s Tale

“No, I don’t think I will kiss you, although you need kissing, badly. That’s what’s wrong with you. You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how.”
― Rhett Butler, Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind

 

TSS



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