Beta males can be the best of both worlds. While they don’t pound their chests or roar like the Alpha male does—and let’s admit on some level that’s actually appealing up to a point—they are crafty thinkers that get what they want by using their intelligence and maybe a little bit of brawn. They reel us in with their charm, their humor and those sweet puppy dog eyes. He’s the nice guy who’s had that crush on you forever, but was patiently waiting until that cruel Alpha broke your heart to comfort you. He might be that “work husband” with whom you’ve collaborated on numerous projects and were too busy to see the love shining in those eyes until one night late at the office…..you get the general idea.
Remember Archimedes? “Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.” Certainly. Long after the massively muscled Alpha has exhausted himself, Archimedes has moved whatever you needed him to move with a stick and a rock. That’s how brawn can triumph over brains.
And don’t think the beta male doesn’t have his superhero side. Peter Parker is the shy beta with eyes for no one but MJ, but does she notice? Nope, but she certainly loves Spiderman.
Jim from The Office had a crush on Pam for years, even though she was engaged to that guy from the warehouse (who was pretty cute in his own right, but Alpha all the way).
Justin Long from Die Hard 4 – Live Free or Die Hard – He’s the brains that stopped Alpha Bruce Willis from locking up the car (by trying to hot wire it) that was going to be their getaway car. Instead he used the OnStar system within the car to get them to start it for them. Brains, darling, brains.
The prince of beta males? Hugh Grant in nearly every role he’s played on screen. Seriously. Take look at any of his movies and you’ll see that I’m not pulling your leg.
The Beta Male is the nice guy. And they don’t always finish last.
Smooches!
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